When eating feels safer in secret: Part 2
The restriction cycle and rebuilding safety around food In Part 1, we explored why eating around other people can feel exposing – and why secrecy may offer temporary safety. But avoiding food while others...
Shame and self-compassion
When eating feels safer in secret: Part 1
For some people, eating is not simply about hunger, taste or enjoyment. It can also feel exposing. You may feel comfortable eating alone, but tense when someone else is nearby. You might wait until...
Why shame makes us want to hide away
One of the most difficult things about shame is that it rarely wants to be seen. For many years, I thought I was hiding because I was embarrassed about my eating. I thought if...
Change doesn’t happen all at once
Many people believe that recovery from binge eating should look like a sudden shift. A day where everything clicks into place. A moment where the urges disappear and things finally feel easy. But in...
What to do after a Binge (without falling into shame)
If you have just had a binge, the first thing I would gently suggest is this: Breathe. Not to fix anything immediately. Not to undo what has happened. Just breathe. Because the moment after...
Why shame keeps the binge eating cycle alive
For many people, the most painful part of binge eating is not the eating itself. It’s what happens afterwards. The quiet moment when the food is gone and the thoughts begin. Why did I...